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 When A Child Returns to School After a Parent's Suicide:
A child returning to school after a parent's suicide is a very important part of the healing. School provides children with a sense of normalcy and reassures them that life goes on, even after a tragedy. Every child in different in how much time they feel they need until they return to school. Some choose to go back soon after the death to see their friends and feel the predictability of school instead of the sadness and confusion at home. Others feel very anxious about returning as it means being away from the security of home and family. They may need a few extra days or attend school part time for a short time. If there is a lot of fear, perhaps speaking to a counselor may be helpful.
It is helpful to contact the principal, teacher, school counselor and nurse. Often people have learned about it in the community. Families can decide how much information to share. Details are not necessary, but it helps to let the school know what the child understands or has been told. Meeting privately with the teacher is helpful for younger children. Teens need to be involved in this process, if they choose.
Children need to be prepared for what they may encounter at school. Friends may seem awkward around them and not know what to say. Many educators find it difficult to help child survivors. Let children practice responding with such things as: "thank you", "I am too sad to talk about it now", "I don't want to talk about what happened. Maybe you can talk to my mom." Remind them that even if an adult asks, sharing information or expressing feelings is not required.
A child can respond with: "My dad had an illness in his brain that caused him to end his life. The medicines he tried did not help him." or "My dad died from complications of depression." Peers can say things that are upsetting too as suicide is so frightening that sometimes children say cruel or upsetting comments.  It is hard for children to let peers know that their feelings have been hurt. This is a good time for adults, such as teachers, neighbors, or coaches to help out and use this time to talk about how children can support a friend and the importance of being kind.

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Helpful Books for Children and Families after a Parent's Suicide:
My Uncle Keith Died by Carol Ann Loehr  (helps parents and professionals talk to young children and older children about depression and suicide)
A Terrible Thing Happened  by Margaret Holmes  (book for young children after something terrible has happened)
How it Feels When a Parent Dies by Jill Krementz  (children 7-16 share openly what it is like to lose a parent from all different causes)
Dying to Be Free: A Healing Guide for Families after a Suicide  by Beverly Cobain (Kurt's Cobain's cousin,Kurt was the 27 year old front man for the band Nirvana who died by suicide in 1994).
But I Didn't Say Goodbye: Helping Children and Families after a Suicide by Barbara Rubel
Voices of Strength: Sons and Daughters of Suicide Speak Out  by Judy Zionts Fox and Mia Roidan,  2009)
Understanding Your Suicide Grief: Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing Your Heart by Alan Wolfelt (founder of www.centerforloss.com) author, educator and grief counselor. 

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