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Presentations, Workshops, Trainings, Consulting & Counseling
for Children, Teens and Adults
Coping and Growing Through Grief, Loss & Other Tough Stuff
Grief Speaks presents anywhere in the USA
Contact Lisa at 973-985-4503 or email firstname.lastname@example.org
Lisa also conducts Skype and phone sessions with folks all around the world.
Lisa is a popular speaker among high school students and college students. She also conducts presentations and keynotes around the United States for adult audiences on healthy coping and healing through different types of loss. Lisa Athan is often called into communities following a sudden death of a child or teen to provide programs that help the entire grieving community in their healing process. Often a it is a grieving parent or a school staff member from a district that recently suffered a loss and who is searching for help for their community finds her website. Lisa typically will come in to a community after a loss and after assessing the needs, will provide classroom presentations or assemblies, a staff workshop or a parent program and/or an evening forum that is open to the entire community. This has been a very helpful and effective way for grieving communities to come together, to learn healthy ways to cope with loss, identify signs that a young person or adult may be struggling, and to discover how to nurture and support one another as well as to learn about resources which include healing programs in that community, books, literature, websites, and other supports.
The focus of the presentation is on healing, nurturing resilience and building stronger connections within the community. As Ernest Hemingway wrote so many years ago, "The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are stronger at the broken places." Many communities and families become much stronger and more compassionate, as they gather together, share their experience, strength and hope together, and begin the journey of healing together.
Lisa's presentations touch on a variety of loss experiences in addition to death, including problem gambling and other addictions, coping with illness in the family, coping with mental health issues, loss of home, as well as intangible, but very real losses, such as loss of identity, innocence, safety and security. Her powerful message of hope, healing and thriving through loss, transition and adversity has been heard by thousands of teens and adults who love and work with children and teens all around the country. Lisa has an amazing ability to connect with her audiences with honesty, authenticity, understanding and a real compassion for their challenges as well as a sense of humor. She shares from her heart through her wealth of knowledge and experiences, and from her own personal stories of resiliency and those of other young people who have risen above their own difficult circumstances to lead healthy and satisfying lives. Lisa has been collecting thousands of these stories throughout the years from around the country when she speaks. She currently is in the process of completing a book for grieving teens. Lisa is passionate about normalizing grief in our society.
The mission of Grief Speaks is to normalize grief in our 'Get Over It' and 'Move On" society. The vision to give every child, teenager and adult permission to grieve in his or her own way and time, through all different types of losses and transitions. Lisa Athan, Grief Specialist and founder of Grief Speaks, provides presentations, workshops and keynotes all over the country. Lisa is also a grief counselor and grief specialist. Lisa is a counselor for teens and adults coping with different types of loss. Her speaking programs include information on different ways that people grieve, how children and teens cope with loss differently than adults, how to listen with compassion, strategies and tools for grievers and friends of grievers, stories from her extensive experience as a grief recovery specialist and counselor, a wide range of resources and support for children, teens and adults who are coping with grief due to all different types of loss.
Presentations, Workshops, In-Service Training, Assemblies, Classroom Programs and Keynotes on Topics Pertaining to Grief in the lives of Children, Teens and Adults Faced with Different Types of Loss.
Lisa Athan serves as a grief consultant and grief counselor for teenagers, adults, families, groups and for communities following a loss of any type. Lisa has an office in Northern NJ, provides sessions via Skype and by phone, and also makes home visits or community calls as a consultant. She conducts presentations and training programs throughout the U.S. and Canada.
To find where Lisa will be speaking next, or has spoken previously, click here to go to her Calendar page.
For information or to book Lisa for one of your programs contact her at Lisa@griefspeaks.com or call 1-973-912-0177
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Permission to Grieve When Your Children Go Away to College, is an article I wrote for parents who are experiencing grief over sending their children off to college. This article has been circulating around the country and I was even interviewed this morning for a Detroit radio station, for The Warren Pierce Show, with Warren interviewing me after he read it. The original article has had over 1000 comments from parents who also could relate to the sadness after leaving their beloved child at college. Today the Executive Editor of The Patch throughout NJ and PA, Tom Davis, contacted me to let me know he ran the article in every patch this week. I also just got a note from a friend who said that Syracuse University sent it out today to the freshmen parents who left their children last night at SU. To read it on my website simply click:
Presented the keynote address for the C.O.P.S.
(Concerns of Police Survivors) Annual Conference in Washington DC in May, 2014
Presented a keynote for the Teens Touched by Cancer Conference on June 3rd, 2014 in the Atlantic City area.
Flew out to Washington State on October 3 to deliver a keynote for the Evergreen Council on Problem Gambling's Annual Conference on the 4th. Title of the program was "Grief in 'A Get Over It' and 'Move On' Society". What a wonderful conference they had.
Had a great time presenting in April, 2013 in Eastern and Central Kentucky for an annual conference for the Division of Family Resource & Youth Services Center. Delivering a six hour training for adults who work with at risk youth on 4/15 and a three hour program on 4/16. Returning in October 2013 to cover the rest of the state of Kentucky. Spoke on October 8th and 9th and will be returning on the 21st and 22nd to do two more 6 hour programs on Supporting Children, Teens and Families Through Grief, Losses and Other Tough Stuff.
Flew out to Minnesota on 9/11/11 and presented in Hinckley, MN to all of the students from K-12 in assemblies, conducted an afternoon workshop for School Staff and held an evening Community Program that provided education and resources on Nurturing Resiliency while Supporting Grieving Children,Teens and Adults Through Different Loss Situations.
Grief Speaks: Giving every child, teenager and adult permission to grieve and providing grief with a voice by means of presentations and workshops that provide education, strategies, resources and support for children, teens and adults who are coping with grief due to all different types of loss.
"There are three needs of the griever: To find the words for the loss, to say the words aloud and to know that they have been heard."- Victoria Alexander
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Grief Speaks conducts workshops, presentations, keynotes and in-service trainings for schools, hospitals, businesses, agencies, communities, and organizations. Lisa speaks to adults, teenagers and children about Coping with Losses, Transitions and Grief. Audiences leave with a better understanding of how grief manifests in children, teens and adults. Lisa teaches that grief is not only from a death loss but from such issues as loss of relationship, loss of possessions, loss of identity, loss of hope and dreams, loss of skills and abilities, loss of the future, loss of safety, loss of environment and more. She teaches that some loss is tangible while other loss is intangible. Lisa provides many coping tools and strategies that can be used by young children, elementary level, middle schoolers and teenagers. Lisa creates an interactive program that changes the way her participants view grief and how they may now support a fellow griever. Lisa speaks all over NJ in elementary, middle and high schools as well as colleges and universities. Students and school staff benefit tremendously from the wide variety of presentation topics that Grief Speaks offers.
Grief Speaks is also available to come out in the event of a loss at school, work or in the community to speak about the loss and grief, which is a very important topic yet often avoided in our society. Often grief becomes like the elephant in the room, clearly present, but often unacknowledged. It is valuable and important that we do not pretend that everything is still the same after a loss has occurred. Unresolved and unacknowledged grief can lead to a lack of joy, depression, unhealthy risk taking behaviors, promiscuity, substance abuse and addictions, emotional problems, difficulty in relationships, academic failure, apathy, delinquency, anxiety, rage, self harm and even suicide or homicide.
Who can benefit from Grief Speaks? Teachers, parents, coaches, physicians, nurses, hospital staff, emergency room staff, EMS workers, fire departments, police departments, First Aid Squads, assisted living facilities and nursing homes, aunts, uncles, camp counselors, youth group directors, YMCA staff, guidance departments, student assistant counselors, school staff and support staff including custodians, bus drivers, lunch aides, office staff, school nurses, board of education members, PTA's, counselors, day care workers, crossing guards, after school staff, coaches, religious teachers and leaders, corporations and employees, and anyone else who would like to learn how to support or assist grieving children, teens or adults in their lives at home, work or in the community.
What Schools Have to Say:
Hi Lisa, This email is long overdue. You can and spoke to my graduate class at Kean University a couple of months ago. I run a grief group at my school for several students and sometimes I feel stuck and unsure which direction to take with them. After listening to you speak, I feel more confident and comfortable running this group. I also passed along the information to their families about the camp (Clover Camp: free bereavement day camp for children ages 7-15 on August 22-26, 2011), support groups and other resources you shared with us. It is extremely important to me as a school counselor and LAC to always have as many resources and as much information as possible to best serve my students and clients. After hearing what you shared you helped me along my path personally as well. You reminded me that it is OK to express my own grief in various ways and that this will be a life-long process for me as well as my family members. Thank you for the reminder to treat myself as lovingly as I do my students and clients. Thank you for all you shared and provided. I have purchased several of the books and resource guides that you brought to show us. They have been extremely successful. You website is a HUGE source of information. I LOVE IT and have shared it with several friends who are school or professional counselors!! You're amazing...keep up the amazing work you do so selflessly each day. I remember you were playing music as we walked into class. Here are two great suggestions for you from a newly released Micheal Jackson album: Hold My Hand and A Place with No Name. Thank you, Thank you. Jodi Hess (School Counselor)
Feedback from the New Jersey Counseling Association Conference 4-10-2010
Presented on Grief, Loss and Healthy Coping at Brookdale Community College
"Excellent speaker!!! Have her back next year!" "Excellent presentation. I have seen Lisa before and she is very knowledgeable and dynamic." "Wonderful, energetic, funny and amazing. A real find. Hope she is back again." "Lisa was great. Loved hearing all of her real life stories. Lots of great one liners." " Great presenter, dynamic and captivating. Great way of using real life examples and experiences to express the outlined concepts." "Fabulous presentation! Really human, warm, funny and compassionate. Bravo!" "Multi sensory, verbal, visual, tactile, clear, funny, complete, inspiring, helpful and excellent!" "Inspiring and informative presentation. Thank you for your preparation and humor which made a usual "untouchable" topic more realistic and helpful." "Phenomenal presentation! Loved it. Best of all I had attended. Engaging." "Very interesting. I wish all people would attend this workshop so they could understand what is and what is not helpful when one is grieving. The books she recommends are great reading." "Excellent speaker. The energy and the comedy!" "You were phenomenal. I held my tears back for 2 hours and my dad died six years ago!" "Presenter was excellent! Great use of humor to keep up attention and interest. Extremely knowledgeable. Loved it!" "Excellent information and vibrant presentation". "Best presentation yet! Hands on, exciting, real examples and ideas to utilize. Energetic, excellent!."
Some Thoughts on Grief
It is crucial that we don't ignore grief or pretend it isn't there. Stuffing and avoiding it only causes it to fade from the surface and erupt later and in different, and often destructive ways. Grief is normal and natural. We need to acknowledge another's loss and grief, be understanding and patient that each person grieves in his own time and in her own way. Say something like "I am so sorry to hear about your loss". So often grievers feel left to handle the loss alone, as others are so afraid of saying the wrong thing, so they say or do nothing.
Offer a hug, send a card, show up, partake in the rituals, acknowledge the loss, bake some cookies, share memories of their loved one, just sit with them and allow them to express their grief. Don't force someone to talk about it. Trust that if a person feels safe, respected and supported during their time of loss, they will grieve. When we love someone and lose them we grieve. Many say that grief is a sign of love. However, we grieve those relationships that were full of conflict and hurt too. Don't assume that the relationship was only positive. It is healthy for the griever to be able to talk about the happy and the less than happy memories. Grant one another permission to grieve. Grief is a process, not an event. In our fast paced world, we long for speed grief. We grow impatient when others are "not over it" yet or "still sad". We think that there is a time frame for grief and often act like the "grief police" letting others know that they are violating their allowed time. Grievers need bumper stickers that read, "I am grieving as fast as I can" or "Griever on Board". We must do the difficult and at times exhausting 'grief work' if we are to begin the healing process and to be able to once again engage in life and relationships fully.
What Schools Say About Grief Speaks:
"Lisa is an engaging speaker who offers useful tools to help people of all ages understand and manage feelings that they may not even know are related to grief and loss. She infuses humor and real life examples into her presentations that everyone can relate to. Lisa is extremely knowledgeable and passionate about her commitment to helping others recognize how grief and loss may be affecting them. I think it's extremely beneficial for parents, educators, and students to attend her talks to help them know what to say and what to do when someone in their lives or communities suffers a loss. I highly recommend attending a Grief Speaks presentation! It's an empowering experience!" Laura Leigh Smith, Ph.D, LPC Corresponding Secretary t for the James Caldwell PTA, Springfield, NJ.
"Didn't want this day to go by before thanking you so much for your wonderful presentation last night!!! It was informative, heart-wrenching, and even humorous (if that is possible!) ...making it a totally enjoyable evening for all! It doesn't matter how many times I hear you speak, you continue to enlighten and inspire me to think outside the box in my daily practice!"
Monica Cattano, Nurse at Jefferson School, Summit
"Thank you for taking the time to present to our school. The staff, students, and parents learned a great deal about recognizing when someone is grieving. We also learned about the many types of losses that may cause someone to grieve. Your presentations at our faculty and PTA meetings helped us to identify grief in others, especially our students, while providing strategies to assist those who are grieving. Through your classroom presentations, our students gained an understanding of how to deal with their own losses and how to be sensitive to anyone who is grieving from a loss. In the short time since your presentations, we have already experienced the benefits from them. The staff, counselor and I have begun using strategies learned to assist our students. On behalf of the entire faculty at James Caldwell School, I appreciate your support and welcome you back next year." David Rennie, Principal at James Caldwell School, Springfield, NJ.
What High School Students Say About Grief Speaks:
"It was so refreshing to have someone talk to us about dealing with different kinds of grief. For me, this was the first time anyone has even spoken to me about how to handle loss. It took so much tension from my life when I realized that all of the anger I was feeling was really just masked grief." HS senior
" Thank you for helping me with my friend who has a dad who was diagnosed with cancer a year ago. He is going to die and now I have learned things to do and say that can be helpful and help her as well through it. Thank you for helping". HS sophomore
"Thanks for coming in. I learned that I am in grief over being overweight My friends tease me a lot and I go along with it and make fun of myself when really it hurts, and I wish so bad that I wasn't overweight." HS Freshman
"I can't thank you enough. My dad died two years ago and not one kid in school talked about my dad after that. You came and gave permission to the kids to talk to me again. My best friend and I haven't spoken in the past two years much at all, and now after your talk, we sat and talked for an hour. He apologized and told me he didn't think he should bring up the death. Now we have our friendship back. I am so grateful that you came in. The kids are now talking to me about my dad and it is a relief."
"I think every student from Kindergarten up through high school should hear these presentations. This is so much more important than math." HS senior
What Middle Schoolers Have to Say to Lisa after her 1 hour presentation in their classroom:
"The assembly was helpful as it taught me that it is okay to cry. My favorite part was when we talked about what helps when we are feeling upset." "I thought this talk was very useful as it taught us how to get your stress out. I like how we got to share stuff on a card with her and she read it outloud and gave us help with our difficulties." "I think Grief Speaks was a cool assmbly. I liked the idea of writing a letter when you are mad, but not sending it to the person. I think I will use these ideas the next time I have to deal with tough stuff in my life." "This program really helped me with dealing with the death of some of my relatives. I now have some things that I can do like make a memory box or write them a letter saying everything I didn't get to say to them. I also learned that you can go to a guidance counselor at school to talk about your problems, not just about school work." "I feel bad for anyone who missed this assembly. It was great. It can save kids from going into gangs or even the wrong crowd. I think it was incredible. I hope that they continue this so the next generation will receive the privilege of hearing this talk!"
What Elementary School Students Have to Say:
"I learned from your presentation that when you are grieving you can talk to someone about it. I also learned that it is okay to be sad when we lose someone we love. I learned a lot from your lesson. It really helped. "
"I thank you for explaining grief. I had it but didn't know what it was called. When I was younger my cat died. I loved him a lot and miss him still. You taught me that is okay. Thanks."
" When you came in I then realized what grief means and what it is. I know what I can do and that it is okay to feel the way I feel."
"You have shown me some ways to get my frustrations out. Thank you for teaching us about grief."
"I learned that it doesn't have to be a death to feel grief. Thank you for teaching us about grief. It is good to know about since we all have losses."
"Thank you for telling us that it isn't our fault when our parents fight or even get divorced. I thought it was my fault. Now I know it isn't. I feel much better now. I am so glad you came to our school."
"Now I know how to make a scream box and am going home to make one for each person in my family. They can stop yelling at each other so much. Thanks."
"Thanks for reading us the book about the cat who died. I got some good ideas now since my dog is old."
"I am glad you came to our school. Adults don't talk to kids much about this stuff and it is something we think about. You let us ask questions and share what we wanted to share. Thank you."
What Teachers Have to Say:
"The presenter was excellent, motivating and relevant to this population." A High School Teacher in Union, NJ
What Hospitals Have to Say:
"Lisa's talk was phenomenally good. She was spontaneous and absolutely riveting, with more than enough important
content to anchor the stories she told. I wish I had the talk on tape, both for the value it had for me personally as well
as for professional use. I intend to have her come speak to the family medicine residents here at the hospital. I would urge
all of the other residencies to consider her as well." Stuart Green, PMH, LCSW, Associate
Director of Overlook Hospital Family Medicine Residency Program, Summit
What Counselors Have to Say:
“Lisa Athan provides exceptional training to both children and adults on how to
help children in grief. Through her workshops, she engages participants in understanding the impact of grief through simulations,
reflections and sharings while also sharing her keen insight into the grief process. Anyone who has had the privilege of attending
such a session led by Lisa is sure to report an "Ah-ha" moment when he or she reaches a new level of understanding.
If you are in need of a caring and competent trainer or support person, I urge you to contact Lisa.” - Mary Fleck
(Facilitator of Peer Support
Group , Good Grief)
"She's excellent - I want to put her in my pocket and take her home." Morris County 2008 NJ Student Assistant Professionals Conference
"Lisa was inspiring, funny, engaging with great tools, ideas and book suggestions"
"Your workshop was really engaging and amazing. I learned so much that I am able to apply daily! Thank you for your dedication and knowledge on grief work. It is so important!" Counselor at a Livingston Elementary School (Sept 08)
What Others Have to Say:
"Lisa, We thoroughly enjoyed your presentation at the Glen Rock Jewish Center at the Movin-On Group (for widows and widowers).Your delivery was so engaging. By any measure you are a very effective speaker and educator. I found your comments on living with grief especially stimulating . It was thoughtful of you to add those personal observations. Your talk gave many of us a boost to life . I personally feel much more confident in handling my own grief . Thank you for a very valuable experience. and I hope you can visit us again." With Gratitude Binny
" We pay psychotherapists to cure it, take Prozac to mute it, seek counseling from religions
which exhort us to rise above it, read inspirational books to overcome it, join recovery groups and self-help groups to cope
with it, spend millions to escape it, use alcohol, drugs, food, work, possessions, sex, entertainment and all the techno-toys
we can get to distract ourselves from it." - Margaret Greenspan, Healing Throught the Dark Emotion
"There are many sorrows in today's world! These sorrows are due to hunger, to dislodging, to all kinds of illness. I am convinced that the greatest sorrow of all sorrows is to feel alone, to feel unwanted, deprived of all affection. It consists in not having anyone....May we all be instruments of peace, of love, and of compassion." Mother TeresaIt is crucial that we discuss this very important topic that is affecting our present as well as our future. We need to learn how to support one another in grief as well as to learn powerful tools that can encourage and increase resiliency in our youth.
Lisa is currently accepting bookings for workshops and presentations for 2014 and 2015. Call to see how Lisa can create a unique presentation to help your school, organization, hospital, business or community group.
Call (973) 912-0177 to contact Lisa or email her at email@example.com